The article below has been so insightful.
I so appreciate tools and tips to help me walk with more integrity in my relationships. How many times have I gotten frustrated with myself because I have the vertical thing going with my kids? How many times have I been dumbfounded being "put" into this with a parent (i am a grown woman after all). I believe often even my Maker relates with me on a horizontal level!
Yes, I suppose with type a and b traumas (from babyhood on) there are issues to deal with in order to function as I ought. I get triggered when someone comes at me in the vertical way, or when I incorrectly perceive they have that win/loose mind frame (or maybe I'm perceiving that's the only option...it makes me very cranky!!!) I remember being outraged in school (or anywhere) when I was treated like I was at the bottom and someone else was at the top. Even as a kid it put me immediately in a very rigid and not-so-helpful state.
Having language which this article kindly provides will help me do the work I need to get my innards lined up with the horizontal ways of relating. I so appreciate this barbell word picture! Now to add it to my bag of things I'm working on.
I had no idea how many problems (resistance built in to keep me from acting like myself) I had inwardly!!! 😜😝🤔🙄
I'm so grateful for help whenever I need it.
Click below to read the full article.
How about you? Do you sometimes find yourself in one or the other mode?
