Fear = Control Is It Wise & Healthy???

Sometimes, when we're afraid we try to control stuff.  It's a very normal response.  

What can create trouble for us is when we have no one to attune to us to tell us frankly, "You're afraid."

Learning how to handle our six right brained emotions (that are God given and VITAL for our healthy existence) takes time, effort, energy and some skill.   If you're new to the idea, you might like the Disney Pixar animated movie Inside Out, which depicts well five of the six.

Often those who have the skill do not even know they have it.

It's not good to try and control our surroundings because of fear unless we're aware of what we're doing...unless we're mindful or "conscious" of what we're doing and why.

There are oodles of examples through history, fiction, etc where fear caused people to control.  We try to control ourselves and our surroundings.  Sometimes we even try to control others.

It's really helpful to learn, "I try to control ___________ because I am afraid."  That can be the beginning of a healthy process which can be learned in the first years of life if we're surrounded by someone with that skill.  If we're not...well...it can take a while.

I love to help people learn this by coaching them to learn how to feel their own feelings. Check out my Coaching page if you're interested in learning more.  

As a help, here is a video from a couple of guys who have seemed to learn the art of equipping and empowering people rather than trying to control them.  The video is free, lasts about 53 minutes and can be watched right away by clicking here.

For those of you who prefer written articles, here's a good one on fear.

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