I have assigned my daughter a series of things to help her. Her RG (Romans 12 gift) is Servant. She has so much amazing strength to offer as she tends to serving others...it's such a blessing to our home and family and household.
HOWEVER, I am aware that people with the RG Exhorter can really brutalize RG Servants by taking advantage of them. Having listened over and over to the Principle for the Exhorter (sowing and reaping) and feeling the massive road rash for a long time thereafter, I am committed to helping serve the Servants. It's not completely altruistic...I know they have the highest ability of authority and in heaven when I have a crown with gems, I want to be well treated by them!
To be honest, the Servant's super powers amaze me and often leave me speechless. When I'm around a Servant functioning in their gifts and flowing freely I feel like I am watching a super star! Their gifts are stunning and so needed and wonderful when brought to community with a pure heart. Their presence brings me such a sense of calm...I hardly have words for it.
I recognize there's a bit of friction happening for my soon-to-be 13 year old daughter Servant. Becoming a young woman she is experiencing the transition from childhood to adulthood. She desires all sorts of good things which she doesn't tell me about but which I can discern based on her negative reactions to people in our home (mainly her brothers!). After seeking some counsel from my friend Mic who is RG Prophet as well as getting lots of requests from my RG Mercy husband, I am going to help her by insisting she HEAR a lot of info about herself and others and what she can do and not do as a Servant to bless herself and others. I insist she take care of her first before she tends to anyone else. That's just a basic, good habit to learn now...especially for a Servant!
The first assignment I gave her in these areas was to listen to the RG album. She did that years ago. Now she's ready for these materials:
1) The Principles for the Servant. (hint: Authority) Wow, will this be a big help to her. She is working on downloading it free from the SLG site today. Please bless her iPod and laptop to work properly! It works fine when she's downloading audio stories!!
2) The Joy Unstoppable album. ALL OF IT. She loaded it onto her laptop over the Thanksgiving weekend and has begun it. I see her stepping over the line into other peoples' business and then lashing out when they react badly. I did it for many years so I recognize the ugly routine. There's generational junk going back decades so this one (I think it's the 5th one) will need some skill for her to tackle. I tackled it and so know she can, too.
3) The maturity series from Dr Wilder. What is maturity? What are the five stages? Where is she in her own maturity and how can she help others to mature? These questions will be answered as she listens to this awesome series.
What wonderful gifts she will get from these audios!
I hope to keep you posted as to the results. So far after just two days listening to the Principles for his RG gift (which is Teacher), my eldest son is stopping himself from arguing so much with her. Fast fruit is SO nice. Now to keep working on honoring KINDNESS within our family...whew! What many fronts there are to wage battle for the generations!
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From a Servant who only in mid-adulthood is discovering they they have a self, let alone that they can have desires or a destiny beyond the expectations of those around them, thank you. Thank you for taking the more difficult route of building authority and identity in the Servant under your care, instead of just enjoying their serving. I know it will be well worth your doing so.
Something God recently had me come across that might be interesting to throw into the mix: someone suggested that Redemptive Gifts could be sorted into the three common categories of Thinking, Feeling, and Intuiting, also referred to as the Head, Heart, and Gut centers. These describing how one first reacts, especially to something new or unexpected.
It made sense to me to group Teacher, Giver and Ruler under "Thinking", Exhorter and Mercy under "Feeling, and Prophet in "Intuiting".
But I was not prepared to have Servants also referred to as intuitive, or gut-driven. I had always thought of myself as logical, first and foremost. But, as I had observed that my Prophet friends (sadly exaggerated proportionately with immaturity) would have an intuited response to something, and their (usually very formidable) logic merely justified their gut's conclusion, I eventually came to recognize that as a Servant I did something similar.
Still unsure how to describe it, but I can recognize it most readily in my relationship with God. When He asks something of me, He and I both already know I'll do it. If I expect it to be unpleasant, I may try to negotiate some aspects. But I already know what I'm going to do, even when I don't want to. Thoughts about only follow the intuitive knowing.
Best contemporary secular example I've seen is this discussion between a Prophet and Servant character:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=U_dGQFuukkY
Again, thanks for giving your Servant a platform for success.
Daniel, I'm fascinated by your thinking/feeling/intuitive input....and hadn't thought of that before. I can totally see and agree that Teacher/Ruler/Giver are thinkers... Not sure about exhorter/mercy and find that intriguing since my hubby is a mercy and I'm an exhorter. I would never have guessed prophets were intuitive and am not sure about that...I guess because I do not really understand the difference between intuitive and feeling. I am very intuitive (or at least have always thought I was) and hubby as a mercy is...well...I don't know because I have no language to probe him about whether it's feeling or intuitive. I have a hunch RGProphets just KNOW stuff... and it's awesome and wonderful! They know but don't have any experience in those areas having "learned" it...it's just absolute truth and fact to them.
I am appreciating much your input. It reminds me to keep pushing out the stuff I've been working on to dig more into the different gifts. Thank you so much for sharing!
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