TRUST

Where do we put our trust????

Try THIS for fun!

"Some trust in chariots, some trust horses; I'll trust in the name of the L*rd G*d of Israel..." <3 <3 <

Julie Meyer - Jewish Medley

Addressing Our Emotions Head On (even our adult ones)

Do you know how to help yourself when you're REALLY mad?  Do you know how to feel mad or do you shove it, etc?  I didn't know how to feel it or much of anything and the reason why is too long a story for today.

Did you try to speak out and no one listened?  Or were you shamed for expressing your feelings and taught they were best felt in solitude?  It's time for some light on that!!

You can now listen to YOURSELF...You can be the parent to yourself that you needed then.  Too, the good news is God can parent you while you parent yourself.   He can also parent you when you're out of ideas!!!

Did you have help learning how to feel mad (etc) and stay in relational mode?  Yeah, right.  Me either.

If you didn't, some of the videos below show examples of what nurturing looks like.  It's mind boggling for those of us who for whatever reason come from family units where emotions were NOT handled well.

The videos cover several emotions a child experiences.  

So whether you're new to the idea of giving dignity to your emotions (or someone elses), caring for children who have feelings, or dealing with yourself or others who feel stuff, I recommend watching all of these short videos!!  

In order to to feel with God we need to know:

1) that what we're feeling is OKAY always

2) that He designed feelings as part of our human experience and therefore HE gives us dignity and permission to FEEL them

3) We don't know what it's called (the feeling) unless someone who knows tells us.  God can attune to us by the Holy Spirit and teach us the names of our own feelings.  He knows what we're feeling and to feel is to heal!!!  

(Personal note:  I think these videos helped me massively understand and imagine so I can picture how I needed to be treated, how I can let God attune to and help me so I can receive His comfort rather than fight or resist it. It also massively helped me see how I can treat the parts within me or others that are still waiting for someone to name them and what they're feeling and validate that they have the right to feel what they've been feeling for me all my life since I wasn''t able to feel my own stuff then because it was too much without helpers...)

Note: the concept of attuning is SO important....and is an aspect of what the Coursey's do so well in the videos below.  To learn more about what attuning is and why it's SO vital,  you can visit HERE for some short video explanations.

First, watch as Daddy Chris Coursey helps do the work of attuning when child is ANGRY:  

Here child is afraid...very afraid...well done Mom and Dad!

Here, Mommy Jen Coursey helps little man as he deals with being really frustrated. 

New experiences can be overwhelming.  Having help from someone who's paying attention, watching and listening while also having words for us is WONDERFUL.

Since so many of our parents did NOT have this stuff done for them, they had NO idea how to do it with us.  So...we often were neglected or abused when we needed THIS sort of help.

The good news?  God wired our brains to feel our big right brained emotions and get back to shalom/peace within ninety seconds by the time we're four years old.  If a child can learn it with trial and error, time and help, SO CAN WE.  It's not easy, but it's worth it.

Please note: according to Dr Jim Wilder we need to be at a certain level of maturity in order to do this.  He says if we are at level one, we need other needs met first.

Where is your maturity?  Peek here to learn more about that.

If you're at a certain level, in my experience with myself, my six children ages 5-15 and others who are adults of all ages, you can work with yourself and your parts and be gentle with them.  Dr Wilder's PAIN lab explains the timing and the math behind any addiction and what's going on.  I appreciate his wrist watch info and have tested it out to be very true.

(Sexual) Addiction Part 5: Pain Lab

Remember there's also another component to keep in mind...getting a handle on this aspect of our life in Christ is a HUGE component in this process, too and can be hindering the processes quite severely:

How To Be Delivered: Derek Prince

Finally, blessings to you and thanks SO much for reading and watching.  Keep pressing on!!!!

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Fixing the Broken Discipleship Factory - A Free Webinar from DWI

I have SO much passion when I think about Jesus' discipleship...oh, how I could say so much about that!  Instead, I will share what I just received: an email invitation to this webinar.  I just signed up!  See if it's something you're interested in too.

Oh, and I generally and most often think of the "church" as God's Beloved - His Bride rather than the building/meeting place. I think it refers to people ("the Church") as opposed to a place.   Exuberant

Blessings, Kate

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Feelings In The Next Generation

Inspired by the Coursey's videos showing them attuning to, connecting with and empowering their children to feel their own feelings, I continue to work with my own self (and places within that needed to be seen and felt and comforted and empowered) and my children, I confess it's been so wild around here!

Recently as our daughter becomes a young lady and learns how to feel (and not bury, hide from or distract from) her very God-given emotions, I experienced such a tumult while walking along side her.

In this podcast, you'll hear my raw experience as I work with her as she begins to feel her own feelings, too.  I think she's beginning to feel proper soul shame for the first time (the cure for narcissism) as well as hopeless despair.

While I throw a lot of info out there, I admit there's a whole lot I failed to mention like my own fears, hopeless despair (etc) being aroused as I went through the process with her.

I hope you enjoy this 13:07 minute audio clip.  Blessings!

Enjoy this free episode  Length: 13:07

Links mentioned:

Unencumbered Life Coaching with Mic (Michelle)

How does this land for you?  I'd love to hear from you!  Please share in the comments below part of your journey!!!!

Teamwork: How To????

I am always searching for principles ...even while I follow my inner nudges to peek around on Facebook!!!

To back up, the other day I felt nudged to look at some books in order to help me understand new ideas for ways I can sow into my marriage.  I found this in audible and listened to the sample clip and was eager to learn more.

Click the image below to listen to a free audio sample of Jimmy Evan's book (he's got great stuff on marriage!!!  Check out a variety of his books here!)

I told hubby (using my new wonderful empowered wife skills) that I would LOVE to know his opinion...and before I knew it he does what he does and off we went into a new adventure learning about our strengths.

Click below to hear a free audio sample.  If you buy the audio book you receive an email with a code to access the test to find out your top five! 

In addition to all this, I'm so thankful for the dialogue today with a person who invested his life in helping others grow to be better people.  He works with children in a camp setting in South Africa and I have admired his choice to pour into those kids as well as bless his family.  He shared with me some tips about leadership which I will ponder more later.  I wanted to record them here for you in case it helps you, too.  He gave me permission to share.  

Here's his initial comment:

The challenge of explaining teamwork to groups on camp.... ( I have this same conversation on almost a daily basis)

Me " What do you think you could learn from the activity you have just completed?"

Group: "Teamwork!"

Me :" Teamwork is a very broad subject. What aspect of teamwork do you think you needed to do the activity properly?"

Group " Working together"

Me." Yes, that is team work but what specific things did you do to enable you to work together better?"

Group "Teamwork!"

And that's how the cycle of conversation goes until I start mentioning the specifics.....
😳🤔🤣

It's clear many are taught to just give clinical answers and not taught understanding   ]

I admitted I was clueless too and asked for his help.  He was honest and said he struggled too...then he came up with these gems:

"The keys for me are :
1) We need each other. No one can do it on their own.
2) We are all valuable and need to be treated as such 
3) We all have our weaknesses. Protect the weak because one day it will be your turn to be weak.
4) Trust and proper communication are vital.
5) Serve and build others up rather than dictate.

And from a Christian perspective - Love, mercy and forgiveness go a long way

 And let each person lead from their unique skills or abilities.

I often use a five finger contract.
I hold my open hand up and ask the kids what does each finger represent to them and then explain it like this :

The thumb (thumbs up) represents encouragement ( well done, you can do it, you're amazing. Etc)
The index finger is used for pointing. It represents judgement. I'm judging others when I point my finger. ( I'm right, you're wrong. Or pointing out the faults of others to make them look bad and me better) Don't judge others. Judge yourself (plank in your own eye).
The middle finger.... That's rude. Watch how we speak to each other. Control our tongue. Use it to bless not curse.
The ring finger - it represents marriage and commitment. It's a decision not to quit. To persevere and always give my best for the sake of others and myself.
Lastly the little finger - it represents the weak things in our lives. If we cut it off our hand is weaker with it missing and looks funny. We are all weak at certain things and strong at others. My strength is someone's weakness and vice versa. If we protect the weak and treat them as the most important it contributes to the team not weakens it.

Then I make a fist and say - when all my fingers work together their combined strength makes power. By themselves each finger can be broken. As a fist it's very difficult to break.
Work together and your are a fist.

Lastly I get them to agree to a ' contract' of how they will treat each other based on each finger. Start simple and build on it.
When things fall apart then I say to the people concerned - remember your agreement? Stop being a middle finger or I raise my the appropriate finger ( other than the middle one 🤣) and cough to get their attention.

They get it quickly enough"

Thanks, AC!

What is your experience with teamwork and such things?  Marriage, family life, business, ministry...how does teamwork look in your world?  What are you doing to build your strengths???  Please comment below!  We'd love to hear from you!

Be blessed!

~Kate

Michigan USA

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Oh, To Renew Our Minds!

21 Day Brain Detox Challenge...  Day 17

Coming Under & Staying Low

Putting this out there quick for you all...  BLESSINGS to you as you DO it!

💗💜💛💚💙💕💓

Prayer and Fasting by Derek Prince

John Wesley

Andrew Murray

"He that is down
Need fear no fall

He that is low no pride

He that is humble ever shall

Have God to be his guide."

~John Bunyan

"When you're on the floor you're safe. There's no lower you can go." ~DP

"Fasting: Abstaining from food for spiritual purposes." ~DP

Yom Kippur

To humble the soul means to fast!  The Jewish people know this.  On the day of atonement they afflict their souls with fasting.

"Don't start praying until you've dealt with your pride!"

"I will release My Spirt on all flesh!" ~G*d

"What will release the spirit of G*d?"

It's in the bible!

"There are about one billion Muslims in the earth that have never been touched by the Spirit of God.  How are we going to reach them?  What will release the Spirit of God?  I tell you if you've ever dealt with Islam.  It's an impregnable fortress to any natural approach.  You have to meet it with the spiritual means.  What is G*d's program?  CALL A FAST...."

Wake up Kate.  Wake up.

Wow.  This is really significant.  Major big time.  Humbling myself starting now.  Yikes!

I'm looking at fasting according the RG of each day in order to be able to pray effectively as a result.  I never realized fasting is to humble ourselves and THEN we're to pray.  Oh, the sequence!

Now I can start making progress on some of the assignments I've been holding onto for decades and didn't know what to do!  THANK YOU G*D!  

Casting Out...

I go through seasons.  Sometimes I have massive output energy.  Other times I am in major input mode.  Once in a while it's semi-even.

While I have so much to share with you and am eager to get it out there (here!), I sense there is very little grace to work on any of it right now.  I know that might shift overnight...I have learned to set up my life so I can more easily go with these ebbs and flows of being led by the One who directs the wind.

I'm learning about deliverance (and the suave ways Jesus did it! SO cool!) and have resumed intermittent fasting after possibly decades of tending to little ones and finding creative things to fast from other than food.

There is SO much going on in my world...so many wonderful reports of freedom, of hope increasing and faith being strengthened (can faith be strengthened??? Hmmmm....).

Because of the nature of what's going on, I want to at least share this wonderful resource with you...incase it fits right in with something you're doing in your course of living by the Holy Spirit's leading.

To give a bit of background, this literally came across my YouTube feed last week by complete "randomness".  It reminds me the God of Abraham IS the L*rd of my internet connection, technology and yes even my YouTube connections.  As far as I recall I was NOT looking for it..

I remember learning from Mr Prince many years ago...and now here again he pops into my world. I have been in a long season of receiving much pleasure and treasure from the land of the UK...stories of fiction and non as well as enjoying so many different things culturally: music, food, ideas, writers, etc...so when I realized he was British I felt so, so happy to receive SPIRITUAL things from a land I so love and am so drawn to.  It's something G*d is doing with me...and I find it quite delightful. 

As for the specific content of this teaching, I can say it is THE most biblical session I have ever heard audibly on the REALITY of Jesus and demons/devils and what's going on in the Greek and how we need to view the whole thing of salvation and deliverance from a completely sound, solid biblical foundation.  FANTASTIC!!!  Now that I'm well on my way of understating how to focus on principles rather than doctrines, I am SO eager to listen, listen, listen and get this stuff into my innards.  I want to be able to help others be free (is that delusions of grandeur??)!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I realized I had MUCH demonic working within me as I watched this...and had just the night before (no kidding!) asked G*d to shine His light and help me see what was the cause of some very troubling issues.  I never would have guessed it was this.  Forgetfulness, fear, tooth stuff, and so much more!  The timing of this was so awesome.  I can't even remember all the details which came to light as I watched this over and over.  

I meant to post it for you right away....but didn't.  I trust His timing on that, too and on wherever you are when you see this.  I bless you to receive whatever good and perfect gifts Father wants to give you!

Derek Prince:  How to be Delivered from demons & evil spirits

How is it landing for you?

I can tell I have more work to do and more rascals to name and get ousted...some of which I think are hindering me BIG time in some very strategic ways!

I should admit that as soon as I saw this I sent it to Mercy husband to listen to and tell me what he thought.  Have I ever told you I think of him as my pastor?  I run stuff by him if I'm not sure of it's true-ness.  Sure enough, he ended up buying the audio book so he could listen at work.  And guess what?  He's listened over and over to it, watched many more videos and well, I'll share more about all that soon..when the grace comes to process aloud all the good stuff your way!