Inner Life Part 3

Another aspect of facing truth and being made free is acknowledging the pain inside myself.  I appreciate one man's work to learn healing techniques for people under his brief care as a medic.  He's written a short book and recently published a video explaining three easy steps to emotional healing.  I marveled as he explained the simplicity of it...and since watching that I've been working on oodles of areas in my life which have surfaced in just a week or so.

This morning the heaviness I felt seemed to have several causes, some of which I've mentioned already.  Two more seem to be deep emotional and mental pain because of the narcissistic abuse I've endured all my life as well as a sort of hiding I think I've done in order to survive it all over the long haul.

I had no idea when I took a break from things years ago that so much needed to be exposed and unearthed within me.  I needed to learn about the need for deliverance, the reality of true inner healing, that everyone is not basically kind and that we can reap junk from what other people have sown.

The good news in there is multifaceted:

I am still adored (and have always been) by the One who knit me together.

He isn't afraid of the big bad wolves.

He has made ample provisions for the ills of this life.

Facing other people's junk, weeding the crud they added to the garden of my life and learning to sow good things even when things seem bleak and barren is really a master plan of living an exuberant life.

Not So Terrible Two's

Before the internet made it's way into many of our homes, in my quest make life work in the setting of family existence, I happened upon a radio broadcast featuring John Rosemond.  He and the host were talking about the book, "Family of Value" and I remember going fast to the local bookstore that same week.  The receipt is still in the back of the book.

That book has travelled through many moves, heartaches and ups and downs within our family.  Anytime I read even a sentence I am jolted back to the reality of how important logic, limits and sanity are for the family...and how G*d's intention is for families to live well together.  The author  tells like it is and gives principle after principle about what's really needed within the family...and his sobering honesty and humor are part of the reason (literally) I agreed to mother my husband's seven children (I bore him six). 

I found another concept explained well in the book Making the Two's Terrific by the same writer.  I was fascinated by his ideas and had not heard them anywhere else.   I had not known anyone to have his perspective or that type of attitude or success with children.   Since my innards believed he was RIGHT I set out to try and experimented using his methods on our sweet and feisty toddlers...and I was very pleased to find he was right. 

Now after 15 years of testing and working with his ideas as well as seeing the bad affects when those principles are NOT done (a cultural plague which I call the missing generation), I am still recommending his books, etc to anyone who cares to listen.  :)  I'll share more later about the specifics.

Keep reading for reviews of his great stuff:

John Rosemond's A Family of Value presents a critical view of the child care literature of the past quarter century and argues for an end to overindulgent parenting and a return to the goal of instilling moral values, such as responsibility, respectfulness, and resourcefulness.

In a completely revised and updated edition of his classic parenting guide, nationally recognized expert John Rosemond offers practical, tantrum-free methods for raising toddlers and getting them through the “terrible” times from age eighteen to thirty-six months. 

Focusing on the developmental period spanning age eighteen to thirty-six-months, which renowned parenting expert John Rosemond dubs, “the twos,” Making the “Terrible” Twos Terrific! offers practical parenting advice to ensure that every child’s “twos” are terrific.

By offering comprehensive tips on everything from toilet training to developing good habits for bedtime, as well as disciplinary techniques to control aggressive behaviors, Making the “Terrible” Twos Terrific! approaches parenting in a straightforward, accessible manner that is easy for parents to implement and achieve success with their toddlers.

No bribing, meltdowns, nudging, or cajoling are necessary. All parents need is consistent, firm, and loving interactions with their toddler to guide him or her during the developmental years. The methods described by Rosemond also translate to success throughout other life endeavors such as school, relationship building, and even productivity in the distant tween and teen years. To ensure that earthquaking foot stomps, decibel-shattering screaming, and consistently stubborn behavior are not the norm for your toddler, consult Rosemond’s Making the “Terrible” Twos Terrific!.   

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My Apologies for Missing Link

In my last post I failed to share the video which SO inspired me to rethink a whole lot about my life.  While I hope to share more in podcasts about this sort of thing soon, here's the video you can check out for yourself.  It's titled, "When the Golden Rule is used to gaslight you."

 I'd love to hear your thoughts!  Did this give you any A-ha moments???

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Childhood Trauma, Abuse, Neglect: PTSD?

Yesterday, a friend shared with me some very interesting information about themself.  When I asked where they got the info from, they shared this video.

Watch this 13 minute video titled:

WAS I ABUSED?

Childhood PTSD info and test

WOW...did that help explain a WHOLE lot about a whole lot of things. I am going to dive into this guys' website and thought I'd leave a trail for you to follow in case you're so inclined.  That's why I made this blog...to throw down the crumbs for you for your journey.  Hope it helps!!

The ACE test mentioned in the video is here.  

The full test on his website with all 60 questions is here.

Thanks SR for sharing the links to the tests.

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Insight into Healing from Narcissistic Abuse & Neglect

Junk that happened long ago which overwhelmed us then and didn't get dealt with might still be lurking in our bodies.  Fibromyalgia?  Back pain?  etc...

What if our body is telling us there's a story from our life we need to hear?

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Emotional Prejudice

What if the reason we're avoiding taking REALLY good care of ourselves is because we're prejudiced?

What if we believe everyone else deserves good things, but that we do NOT?

What if we think sacrificing for others means neglecting our own needs?

What if we feel we are better than others because we sacrifice so much?

What if there are MAJOR emotional wounds within, from stuff we never got but that we needed, and that's what we're avoiding?

How many of us look to the new info, whether it be spiritual or physical,  changing our beliefs and our actions while completely continuing the iniquity of ignoring our emotional selves?

How much of our busy-ness is to distract us from ourselves?

How long can we keep it going?

AT WHAT PRICE?

Snowy Sunrise

As winter shows off it's final beauty I am amazed at how much inner stuff in me is beginning to shift. I have a hunch the freedom to write will return soon...and with it the ability to focus and share freely about a good many things.

What's it like where you are?

Free Narcissism & Brain Circuit Video Resources by Dr Jim Wilder

(edited on 2/22/19: The original link I shared to Deeper Walk was incorrect. Also, the content is not free as I initially thought; it is avaialbe for 60 days with a donation of any amount to Deeper Walk. I have updated the link near the bottom of this post.)

This invitation came across my desk today and I raced over here to share it in case you're interested.  
What's going on with narcissism? If you're new here you might not know it's something I've been researching for several years.

Four videos by Dr Jim Wilder are available free for 60 days (with a donation). Titles are:

1) Narcissism and the bible

2) Narcissism and the brain

3) Relational brain circuits
4) Narcissism: the archenemy of grace

"Dr. Jim Wilder (Ph.D., Clinical Psychology, and M.A. Theology, Fuller Theological Seminary) has been training leaders and counselors for over 27 years on five continents. He is the author of multiple books with a strong focus on maturing and relationship skills for leaders. His coauthored book Living From the Heart Jesus Gave You has sold over 100,000 copies and is printed in eleven languages. Wilder has published numerous articles and developed four sets of video and relational leadership training called THRIVE. He is the founder and chief neurotheologian of Life Model Work, a nonprofit working at the intersection of brain science and theology that is building contagiously healthy Christian communities through equipping existing networks with the skills to thrive. Dr. Wilder has extensive counseling experience and has served as a guest lecturer at Fuller Seminary, Biola, Talbot Seminary, Point Loma University, Montreat College, Tyndale Seminary and elsewhere."

Donate any amount and access the content here.

If you're new to his books, you might like to start with this one.

I recently started a Facebook group for people going through the book...please feel free to join us!

Have you read any of his materials or attended training from Life Model Works? Share what you loved about it a comment below! We'd love to hear from you!

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Food for Thought: Are We Little Christs?

What does it mean to be a christian?  

Where does ROTC fit in?  

Are we believing Jesus or are we believing our own ideas?

Should there be a discrepancy?  

Enjoy this 10 minute podcast challenging us about our beliefs and ideas about christianity. 

How Can We Bear Fruit?

John 15 says a lot about bearing fruit.

What's the big deal about spiritual fruit?  What's true about intimacy?  What if we're focused completely on the wrong things and we don't even know it??? 

This message has been bubbling within me for more than twenty years.  

Join me as I share the beginning of my story in part 1, and then conclude with the second and final podcast in this two part series.  

Podcast length:  7 minutes 44 seconds

 To hear the surprising conclusion, listen to part 2:

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Podcast length:  4 minutes 46 seconds

Getting It RIGHT.

A theme through my life within God's Body has been the issue of what He means for us to understand when we read the scriptures.  Knowledge is of course important, as we see in Proverbs, however I am always drawn back to the Pharisees in Jesus' day who KNEW the word of God better than anyone and yet denied the Word of God when He stood in front of them.  

Rather than bowing their intellectual knee to Him, they argued.  I do believe there is a veil over the eyes which God only can remove, and while I don't know how that works I know there is ample biblical proof that it is God's work to reveal to the hearts of men and women who He is.  I respect that even though I don't understand it.

During my early years within the community of God's people, I loved learning about the Hebrew mindset.  This affected me very much in my own personal approach to studying the scriptures as well as how I approach educating our six children.  

A teaching by a pastor blew me out of the water as he shared the affects of Greek thinking on our modern day Christianity in the west.  Many men I greatly respect who are full of love and walking in truth wax eloquent about the issues pertaining to the lens by which we approach scripture.  I look forward to sharing those resources with you as time goes by.

Last week I recorded an audio clip to challenge our belief systems.  I will share it once I get the clear "go ahead."  Until then, I have requested this book from our local public library because of a great chat I had with my small group yesterday.  

We sat at a coffee shop and actually recorded a lengthy discussion to share with you.  I hope to edit that this week and publish it along with the introductory podcast from our small group where we discuss the issue of doing life together with people with whom we can take off our masks.  

Blessings to you and PEACE as you continue to seek the God of Abraham alone.  

~Kate

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A Woman's Voice

What does the term Elder even mean?

Does God want women to speak up and preach the gospel and make disciples?

Why is there so little power in some places within the church today?

Some of these topics are shared in this podcast series from Pastor John B. and his wife Lisa.

Click the blue arrow below to hear part 1.

Part 2.

Part 3

If you're a woman I would love to hear what you think!  Do you have a calling on your life and you're waiting to release God's words to others?  PLEASE share!