Have you ever felt peaceful looking into someone's eyes? Have you ever felt stressed? Do you have trouble talking with some people? Do you ever feel awful after watching tv or movies? I know I have! In this series I will share tips and give a little explanation in order to give you some ideas which you might like to try in order to improve giving and getting emotional feedback through eye contact.
This is the first episode in this new series.
Enjoy this free episode
Length: 8:13
What has been your experience? I would love to hear! Please comment below.
What happens in the front of the brain and back? Why does it matter?
Thanks to S.R. who sent me this link partially way through Dr Wilder's seminar.
It is really fantastic.
If you or anyone you love had a trauma they still deal with (meaning they never had what they needed when the bad thing happened- it can be a hug and a listening ear, someone who could see their fear, disgust, embarrassment, anger, or hopeless despair, attune to them and let them know someone was still glad to be with them in spite of the bit problem), THIS info is super helpful.
It's SUPER helpful to understand how information isn't really what's helpful and that our work is not really to solve problems. OH MY GOODNESS someone sing a song....for this is the REAL stuff of life I've been longing to hear all my days.
Seriously...to hear this all is amazing!!!!
I would say more...but I'm in the back of my brain and tired from a day of life in my skin. When I have more articulative ability I'll maybe say more.
What do YOU think and/or feel about it? I can hardly wait to read your comments!
Trauma: Impact and Implications for Recovery - Jim Wilder
[For those of you who like to read about my daily details, I've managed to hear this from where it starts at about 54 minutes through the end, though it's literally taken me the entire day of stopping and starting with a hundred other things going on.]
If you want to find the resources he mentions in the clip, you can find them at his ministry website as well as here.
Oh, and if the whole idea of inner healing is weird to you and brushes against your theological background, perhaps you will appreciate this.
When I was a kid, my dad played this album for me. I think he was RG Prophet. The truths and the principles within these songs became my reality....I think I was about 12.
The vinyl came out the year I was born and has a unique sound as well as a refreshing put-together-ness of the music (there's a technical word for that but I can't think of it...arrangement maybe?). It's 40 kids singing at Christmas.
Immanuel: God with Us Edited to add: If you're wanting a perspective from one of the guys with Life Model Works, I love this blog post from Ed Khoury as he brings up the struggle some have within Christendom to deal with inner healing. I highly recommend you checking it out here. Also, Ed K. has great audio you can hear here.
I'm down in the trenches...dealing with SO many things and knowing this isn't a time to externally process because I'm sucking in SO many things, processing and dealing with OH SO MUCH...
I've been working on this post for you so those of you who are asking can have an idea of what this Immanuel Process is...
First, consider taking a look at this video with the music turned off. Imagine God being with us...through everything. That's the idea...and this video is something which helped me get my innards to understand the idea...
I love what Dr Wilder and his crew share about all the real life pain stuff we all deal with.
For me, it's taken it from the theology of the scriptures to the brain and the body and to a place I can DO something with it.
I want to share more later and give you words for WHY I love this...but if you listen to Chris, you'll be able to hear the principles there...as he does such a great job sharing them.
Go here to get a free download of different great stuff from LMW, including info on the Immanuel process.
Sometimes it can be really discouraging to feel like we're not living what we've been put here to do. When what's inside of us isn't really coming out very well it can be angry making, embarrassing, humiliating and frustrating. Sometimes hopeless despair offers solace...and yet still KNOWING there's much within that is designed to come OUT but is stuck can be demoralizing. Ask me how I know.
While we're trouble shooting along on that adventure process, sometimes it's nice to take a fun and refreshing break. That's what I did when I took this free online test. It was interesting and thought provoking. When I got the results back I was STUNNED with the accuracy.
Somehow, after years of not knowing who I was, it was put into words for me. I felt assured, seen, understood and validated. To be honest? My innards erupted with THAT'S ME!! THAT'S ME!!!!
So far it's been pretty powerful and spot on for some other people I've shared it with too. Would you like to try it? It can be good to get the positive juices flowing when we're feeling a bit down about where we are (and aren't) in life.
You can click this link to see the test and decide if you'd like to take it. Once you finish, I would SO love to hear what type you are!!! Would you please share by commenting below???
I have assigned my daughter a series of things to help her. Her RG (Romans 12 gift) is Servant. She has so much amazing strength to offer as she tends to serving others...it's such a blessing to our home and family and household.
HOWEVER, I am aware that people with the RG Exhorter can really brutalize RG Servants by taking advantage of them. Having listened over and over to the Principle for the Exhorter (sowing and reaping) and feeling the massive road rash for a long time thereafter, I am committed to helping serve the Servants. It's not completely altruistic...I know they have the highest ability of authority and in heaven when I have a crown with gems, I want to be well treated by them!
To be honest, the Servant's super powers amaze me and often leave me speechless. When I'm around a Servant functioning in their gifts and flowing freely I feel like I am watching a super star! Their gifts are stunning and so needed and wonderful when brought to community with a pure heart. Their presence brings me such a sense of calm...I hardly have words for it.
I recognize there's a bit of friction happening for my soon-to-be 13 year old daughter Servant. Becoming a young woman she is experiencing the transition from childhood to adulthood. She desires all sorts of good things which she doesn't tell me about but which I can discern based on her negative reactions to people in our home (mainly her brothers!). After seeking some counsel from my friend Mic who is RG Prophet as well as getting lots of requests from my RG Mercy husband, I am going to help her by insisting she HEAR a lot of info about herself and others and what she can do and not do as a Servant to bless herself and others. I insist she take care of her first before she tends to anyone else. That's just a basic, good habit to learn now...especially for a Servant!
The first assignment I gave her in these areas was to listen to the RG album. She did that years ago. Now she's ready for these materials:
1) The Principles for the Servant. (hint: Authority) Wow, will this be a big help to her. She is working on downloading it free from the SLG site today. Please bless her iPod and laptop to work properly! It works fine when she's downloading audio stories!!
2) The Joy Unstoppable album. ALL OF IT. She loaded it onto her laptop over the Thanksgiving weekend and has begun it. I see her stepping over the line into other peoples' business and then lashing out when they react badly. I did it for many years so I recognize the ugly routine. There's generational junk going back decades so this one (I think it's the 5th one) will need some skill for her to tackle. I tackled it and so know she can, too.
3) The maturity series from Dr Wilder. What is maturity? What are the five stages? Where is she in her own maturity and how can she help others to mature? These questions will be answered as she listens to this awesome series.
What wonderful gifts she will get from these audios!
I hope to keep you posted as to the results. So far after just two days listening to the Principles for his RG gift (which is Teacher), my eldest son is stopping himself from arguing so much with her. Fast fruit is SO nice. Now to keep working on honoring KINDNESS within our family...whew! What many fronts there are to wage battle for the generations!
This video is the result of my hubby assigning the three older boys a video project to be completed over Thanksgiving Day weekend. I think they did GREAT! What do you think???
I've been thinking about what types of people there are in the world. I enjoy learning about all sorts of variations and similarities. In the process I am learning about myself as well.
Patty sent me this video a while back.
I LOVE bubbles....and the thing I LOVE about them isn't what you might think. When bubbles are being blown I love watching them...I love the motion and the color and the light (which is why I love music, too...because when I hear music I can "see" those three qualities as well!).
I am not all that fond of breaking them though. I mean, popping them is super fun, but what I MOST like is BLOWING bubbles.
Hi. My name is Kate and I LOVE blowing bubbles. For you, for anyone or for no one.
Watching people (and creatures) enjoy play gives me a ridiculous amount of pleasure.
Have you the heart to build God's kingdom in your lifetime? Do you want the lines between business, church, family, God and yourself all fade away making everything you do BE Kingdom driven? ME TOO!!!
I think the greatest challenge for entrepreneurs is focusing inwardly on what burns within each of us in order to express things which will build God's kingdom.
Why is that hard? Well it's not...but it's quite a process to get the thing from the realm within us to the world beyond our mind, will, emotions and body.
Ideally, an entrepreneur is one who STARTS new things. I remember Dr. Ben Carson mentioning that small business and entrepreneurs are the driving engine of our economic structure. Imagine entrepreneurs free to release into our world the stunning, new, innovative things which will help God's Kingdom expand!
I am working on a special segment of our site here in order to offer materials, resources, tips, encouragement, stories as well as hopefully a community where we can share ideas.
In the mean time to help assuage my massive entrepreneurial energy I signed up for the free e-course over at Kingdom Driven Entrepreneur. I'm on session three and so far it is AWESOME!!! It's giving me language for what's already been happening in my world. Check it out if you think it might be your thing too!!!
Are you interested in doing what you love to do FOR others while getting something FOR yourself and your family? Small business might be right for you.
Of all I've read, researched, prayed and thought about, I think this video hosted by Dave Ramsey is super helpful. Click below to watch the video now.
How To Grow Your Side Business
Dave mentions this book and it sounds great. I'll be reading it next week.
I'd love to hear your thoughts! Please share by leaving a comment below!
Sometimes, when we're afraid we try to control stuff. It's a very normal response.
What can create trouble for us is when we have no one to attune to us to tell us frankly, "You're afraid."
Learning how to handle our six right brained emotions (that are God given and VITAL for our healthy existence) takes time, effort, energy and some skill. If you're new to the idea, you might like the Disney Pixar animated movie Inside Out, which depicts well five of the six.
Often those who have the skill do not even know they have it.
It's not good to try and control our surroundings because of fear unless we're aware of what we're doing...unless we're mindful or "conscious" of what we're doing and why.
There are oodles of examples through history, fiction, etc where fear caused people to control. We try to control ourselves and our surroundings. Sometimes we even try to control others.
It's really helpful to learn, "I try to control ___________ because I am afraid." That can be the beginning of a healthy process which can be learned in the first years of life if we're surrounded by someone with that skill. If we're not...well...it can take a while.
I love to help people learn this by coaching them to learn how to feel their own feelings. Check out my Coaching page if you're interested in learning more.
As a help, here is a video from a couple of guys who have seemed to learn the art of equipping and empowering people rather than trying to control them. The video is free, lasts about 53 minutes and can be watched right away by clicking here.
For those of you who prefer written articles, here's a good one on fear.
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